Date: 2018-02-18 14:36
I can’t believe I stumbled onto this site and so glad I did!! I recently met a military man on Tinder. He claims he 8767 s in Kabul, Afghanistan, he 8767 s a Doctor in the Army. I have seen pictures in his army uniform, his doctor stuff, I believe all this is true. I was hesitant to leave his name here but after reading all these messages which is very similar to my experience, his name is Michael Frank Cook. I tried researching him online and cannot find anything, nothing at all with this name, not even pictures Ok so, I am very familiar with the military, my dad was in the Army and I have some very close friends that have served and they can be very private however with this day in age I asked if he has any social media like facebook, twitter, instagram, he said he had to shut down his facebook because he was informed someone was using his pictures for a scam, hmmm. A few days after we had been chatting on Tinder, he told me we should switch to kik, never heard of kik but easy app to communicate on. He just had a birthday, turning 55 and ready to retire. In conversation, he let me know his wife died four years ago of cancer, has a 69 year old son and his mother of 85 years old takes care of him with a nanny. He 8767 s been on this mission in Kabul for almost 7 years, wants to retire and wants to come home to me because he is so in love. I live in LA, he has a house in Colorado Springs. So, in chatting maybe for 7 weeks, he claims his internet will be cut off, they only get so much bandwidth and because he 8767 s a doctor he gets privileges, like a private office and only he uses the computer in that room. So if I want to continue communicating with him, I need to send money to an agent, $855- I was like what, that 8767 s weird, why do they charge so much but I did it anyway. Then the phone thing came up, if I wanted to talk to him on the phone, I would have to pay another $855 for my phone number to be registered and we could talk anytime. I was like, no, I know you get calling cards and such to communicate with your family. In the meantime, he wants to leave that place so bad, he 8767 s in a war zone and such. And exactly like I have read here, he is allowed a 8 month leave and when he gets back in the states he can file for retirement and not have to go back. OK. However, in order for him to take a leave, I will have to write a letter to the military on his behalf telling them I am going to be his wife and I need him to come home to plan our wedding or I can say our son is not strong and I need him home to support me and take care of him together. I was like, what? I told him I can 8767 t do that, I won 8767 t lie Oh and all the while there is this big push on trust, I need to trust him, he 8767 s honest and doesn 8767 t play games and not here to scam anyone, yada yada yada and I will have to pay fees to get him home. I asked, the military doesn’t fly you home. He said oh yes they do but I would have to pay for it, then when they know he’s safe with me after 7 days he will pay me back… out of curiosity, I asked how much is that going to be… $7555!!! Oh but if I can’t pay that, I can do payments. Seriously this is an f’n joke right. So we argued about it and he played on my emotion. I made the mistake in telling him (before this came up), I had just broke up with my boyfriend 7 months prior to going onto Tinder. We lived together for *censored*ears and I was just testing the waters by going online, which he proceeded to tell me, he had just gone onto Tinder that same day too and boom… we are a match!! So he laid that to rest and yesterday he came up with a new thing I could do to help him get home, he wants my bank account information, I was like WHAT!!! This is just getting out of hand, so I humored him. I asked why, he said the Military has money for him and he doesn’t want to have it deposited into his accounts stateside because when your overseas you cannot access your domestic accounts and all that you live on is the allowance they give which isn’t much. So he wants my bank account information, which I can totally trust him with and he loves me so much, so that this money can be put into my account then I can transfer it to him through an agent, I’m assuming through Western Union. I was like hmmm, well how much money are we talking about… $87,555-!!! I told him my bank account has never seen that much money, let alone half of that, wouldn’t that seem odd to my bank? This amount of money appears, then disappears. I told him I am not comfortable with that, we went back n forth on this last night… don’t I want him home, blah blah blah. So this morning I decided to do a *censored* research online, is this a normal thing even though I would never agree to it kind of thing and this is the first site that came up!!! I’m just appalled, are these really our Military men out there scamming their fellow Americans, scamming women? I have the upmost respect for our Military, our soldiers, they leave their families to fight for our freedom for months and years at a time… I just don’t want to believe this. I haven’t talked to him yet today, we kind of left it up in the air but now… I’m only out $855 and I’m alright with that. If Michael Frank Cook is truly an American soldier, he just came up on that money (which I think equates to like $769 because of UK currency) it’s my donation to the cause for fighting for my freedom. Thank you and carry on soldier!!! Peace (hopefully someone else who stumbles on this page as I did, will get the benefit of not being scammed)
I was concerned after the first three days of texting back and forth. He wanted me to get on kik to text him and get off tinder all together. We were going to talk on the phone one night but he said he was unable
To get a international phone card. First red flag. Then said I 8767 d I wanted to be able to talk to him I would have to get one. I told him that wasn 8767 t happening. So we continued texting on kik. Due to time differences and texting we texted in intervals. He said he was Nathan Fair 8 tour in Chad Republic. The only other information I was able to get was he said his birth date is 9/65/6966 and a E6 Staff Sargent over 67 men originally from Hanford California. Conversation went ok but he started to talk about wanting to take leave and us being to tether forever. Another red flag. I played him for a while to see was this real or not but told him I would in no way do anything that would require me using my personal information. Then the trust issue was dealt with. Then he changed subjects keeping conversation light. And he kept coming back to leave having to be now. And I needed to get not one but two prepaid debit cards for him to transfer his money to so in hold send it to a agent and he could come home. I told him I needed find out and educate myself about them and bought time
To research more about the army. I had dated military in my *censored* days and have retired military friends, who I had not a asked them
Anything yet. I was able to find and read a lot of the information posted so when he wouldn 8767 t say where he did basic training and said they didn 8767 t have a post office available for me to mail him a birthday surprise I knew he was a scam and advised him that I lived near a large base with friends and I was going to block him until they could get me some information to confirm you are real or not. Yea that didn 8767 t go over to well and I repeated him and reported him to both tinder and kik. I would like to know if this soilder is even alive. I would like to put him on my prayer list if he is. The last text I sent to who ever was you don 8767 t even know the God I serve and the one you so readily use his words in his book to hurt our American soidlers and the people who care about them. You better get to know him and ask him in your life bc I have a have prayed a prayer for all of you that are doing this to stop and my Jesus won 8767 t stop till he 8767 s will is done. There isn 8767 t a place you can go to hide from him. You better start ducking. Yes I am a prayer warrior and believe I had this experience so I could pray about this situation. But like I said I would like to know about the soilder whom he claimed to be and if alive keep him in my prayers.
It brought tears to my eyes reading your comment. I have commented before on this article, telling part of my own experience with 8775 gaslighting 8776 . At this point I am dealing with having my house repossessed by the bank, because of my (soon to be ex) husband walking out & pulling out all financial support- even against his lawyer 8767 s suggestion and not because he doesn 8767 t have the means- he earns well over 675K a year while my earnings are in the $75,555-$75,555 range at this stage.
I had left this man back in 7556, due to his behaviour then (kicking myself daily for returning to this mess). As crazy as it sounds, it took a full 7 years to rid myself of all connection to him, because he would call me professing his love & play me for awhile, then I would say or do something that sent him away again. It was always 8775 my 8776 fault. But, after I finally got brave enough to cut the ties with him in 7558 I built up my career, had a great time raising my *censored*ren, moved to another city further away from him, and had a fantastic life, then 5 years later he suddenly began contacting me out of the blue, and was so convincing, so determined that I was the woman he wanted, saying all of the right things, that I fell for him again. That was in 7568. After he sweet-talked me into marrying, I quit my job to care for him when he had health issues, spent over 7 years trying to figure out why I was so difficult to live with, and then he left last summer. I 8767 ve got nothing left now. He convinced me to put all of my inheritance & savings into 8775 our 8776 home, which is jointly owned. After moving out, sneaking back one day with a moving truck & taking most of the contents of the house while I was away, he has told the bank to take it. He won 8767 t even wait out a proper sale, and division of assets. I have tried for 8 months but am all tapped out, the mortgage is too deep in arrears, so I 8767 m just sitting here waiting. He ordered the internet & landline disconnected on Christmas Eve. He lives in the home that he hung on to after we got married, has a new girlfriend (victim). I 8767 m sorry this is a bit longwinded, but I just wish that someone had warned me, that someone has told me about these men, or these people. All of the pieces now fit, when I read about NPD & gaslighting. He was a textbook case! At this point I am trying to rebuild my career, my good credit, my reputation (because he has told family & friends that I 8767 a pathological liar & mentally abused him!). I am having to re-learn how to live. Yes, I sought legal help, too wealthy for legal aid I 8767 m told. So, at the urging of a counsellor I did hire a lawyer to help me, but that requires cash.
I have no wealthy family to borrow from. I 8767 m just waiting. Taking it one day at a time. Just wish I knew then what I know now.
I have actually stopped women and told them in the middle of making out that I like them and I am not going to have sex with them because I want to see them again. That doesn 8767 t work at all because as soon as she hears that I don 8767 t want to have sex with her she instantly takes that to mean I am not attracted to her and now she wants me even more. I have gotten to the point where I feel like the stereotypical woman. Literally every single woman I date throws herself at me on the first date. I am not exaggerating and the last time that didn 8767 t happen was my second wife and that was in 7565. I feel like the woman, meaning, I have no clue if these girls actually like me or if they just want me inside of them. Truthfully, I have been single for two and a half years and I haven 8767 t had feelings for any of the women I have met until about a month ago. The same thing happened. I liked this girl a ton. After about the three hour time limit she jumps on me like an octopus, *censored*. I loved it. I have not felt a connection like I did with her since my second wife. She was super enthusiastic about our making out and I knew it was going very quickly towards being naked. So, I stopped, told her I needed to calm down and then I explained to her that she is wonderful and I really can 8767 t wait to see her again and I want her super duper bad but that I am not going to have sex with her that night because I want to see her again. This woman is extremely well educated. She has far more education than I do. She has a PhD and teaches at a local university. So we can 8767 t keep our hands (mouths) off of each other and after another twenty minutes we are having 8775 the talk 8776 . We decide to have sex and we decided I am going to stay the night. So we had sex a lot. It was amazing. I am still crazy about her a month and a half later and I haven 8767 t even heard from her in a month.. I bet you didn 8767 t see that coming.
I have anxiety from PTSD I take an SSRI for it. SSRI 8767 s negatively affect libido. I was crazy about her and I didn 8767 t want anything negatively affecting my libido so I stopped taking it cold turkey the very next day. I was completely unaware of the intense withdrawals. I went absolute nuts over the next two weeks and was not even self aware of how buzzard my behavior was and nobody said anything to me.
So after two weeks of being obsessive, possessive, insecure I scared her away. A few days later I ended up in the emergency room because the physical withdrawal symptoms had become so intense I could not function. That is when all of it was explained to me and They made me start taking the same exact crap again.
As my mind cleared and got back to normal I began realizing how I had acted toward her. I am so devastated with myself. I know I wasn 8767 t myself and it wasn 8767 t intentional blah, blah, blah. I just, I really felt like after two and a half years of searching I had finally found her and now she will just think of me as the crazy guy. I 8767 m not. I have never acted the way I acted in my entire life. My entire brain function was completely different. I literally was not me. It was nuts. But I can 8767 t convince her of that. She has no reason to believe me or even entertain my explanation. I wish she would. But I know she isn 8767 t obligated. I have never felt like this about someone before. I am 87 years old two marriages, plenty of dates. This woman has been ignoring me for a month and I still want her. I still want HER. I blew that. Guess it 8767 s back to the sexpots.